When getting into a relationship, you can immediately tell a person’s communication style based on the first conversation. They either took forever to respond, or continued to keep the conversation flowing. However, when it comes down to it, communication styles are truly a driving force of a relationship. You either want someone who communicates the same way as you, or you’re willing to accept their communication style, whether you like it or not. Having said that, the biggest question lingers: are you okay with communicating all the time, or the opposite?
There has probably been a single moment in one’s dating life where they have been approached with the biggest question: “is this even worth it?” While many dread it, it’s important to truly understand the gift that question can give you. As much as you hate to admit it, you’ve probably sat there weighing out the pro’s and con’s in your head — and hey, it’s okay to keep those thoughts to yourself.
While it’s nice to be on the same page as your partner, let’s be real, that might not always be the case. From your first kiss, to moving in together, it is vital to understand that all relationships move at their own pace. More importantly everyone moves at their own pace based on what they’re comfortable with and maybe even past experiences. This…. and we can’t stress this part enough… is normal!
Sometimes we question the relationships we are in as we go through the trials and tribulations that are actually a completely normal part of life. No two people process life the same way and these hurdles help the relationship to develop into something more serious. During these times, it’s totally understandable to lean on friends and family for support and advice. We’ve been there; you slowly start to share so much of the negative and not enough of the positive that it can lead to the dreaded situation of someone close to you not liking your SO.
As Will Smith said about Jada Pinkett Smith, “Her happiness is not my responsibility. She should be happy, and I should be happy individually. Then we come together and share our happiness. Giving someone a responsibility to make you happy when you can’t do it for yourself is selfish.”
Let that sink in.
Currently, I am quarantined at home during the COVID-19 outbreak with my significant other. While I am comforted knowing I will be with the man I love during this stressful time, I cannot help but feel overwhelmed by the thought of spending every waking moment together. If you stepped into a time machine and witnessed me three years ago, I would have never fully understood the meaning of space within a relationship.